he lies = you leave..
He called me a few days after we remet, an asked if he could see me. I was surprised but curious to. We went out and the sparks flew and I forgot why I broke it off back when because he was so sweet with his words, after a few dates we had sex and it was great, but the next few days I could tell something was bugging him. Turns out he was thinking about a woman he met online in a chat forum a year ago, she lives a few thousand miles away. He wanted to be honorable and tell me about her. I was surprised, and probably should have dumped him but he made it sound like she was a maniac and he did tell me. From what he told me they had a steamy relationship but it was weird to. There was a lot of fighting, and he would try to break it off, but she kept calling him or emailing him back. He tried blocking but she kept working around his blocks using a phone app to change the number and using different email addresses. He said she make plans to fly out, but never did. She kept him dangling..
But I'm afriad that I'm not good enough for him and that while I'm happier and more self-confident now (and prettier -- losing even that small amount of weight means that I've cheekbones again!!) that it's not enough..
I suppose men just don't understand what that kind of hurt does to a woman or how long she can hang onto the resentment; how l-o-n-g it will take before she ever feels comfortable enough to trust again..
that they still have a bond together? either they are friends or they still have feelings for each other..
Yes, it stings to know that a friend is with someone you had an interest in, however, his interest in you was not strong enough for him to pass on someone else's interest. This not about stealing, it is about a lack of mutual interest. She took over because he allowed her to ban wasn't invested in you. It doesn't mean he was yours just because you slept together. It appears you two didn't have a discussion about what you each wanted prior to or after you slept together..
i really need some advice because i just dont know how to go about doing this!.